Wednesday, November 04, 2009

being perfect and all...

i hear a lot that ryan and i are just amazing people because we have adopted and have fostered children...the truth is that we are selfish in a lot of ways.

when you want a child...you want a child. i mean, most of us think biologically out of the chute, but a child is a child. you have no more control over medical concerns or genetics or due dates whether you adopt of biologically birth a child...

we wanted more children.
we adopted.
period.

i hate to make it sound so simple, but, and i'm gonna throw out frigg
in' hand grenade here, it was. now, the process wasn't, but the actual, "ok, let's have a child" thing was that simple. the biggest difference i've seen is that having kids biologically, well, let's just say you can't decide simply over a nice meal and bottle of wine...

sure there are background checks and paperwork and financials, but if you want that child, you'll do it...and it's just different stuff than you do with a biological child. you get all prego in paperwork and still keep the girlish figure!
and we may look different and be a little crazy, but hey, it works for us. we are a fam...a motley crew, but a fam!!!
i love this campaign from the children's bureau via adoptUSkids...it's called, now you may wanna sit down for this, "you don't have to be perfect to be a parent".
so i just wanted to say, you really don't have to be perfect to be the perfect parent to a kid who would love to put up with you...it's just a thought

want more info on adopting, go HERE or drop me a note...i'll talk your ear off!
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november is national adoption awareness month

one of the biggest myths i hear is about adoption NOT being affordable...brooke's adoption was private and cost about $17,000 when all was said and done. the US gov't gave us a $10,000 tax credit towards those expenses the next year...and we received $5,000 pre-tax from work on an adoption assistance payout...so in the end, we really only had less than $5,000 to cover on our own...and we spend $40,000 on a new car without blinking.

interested in the national averages and the difference in pricing for US, international and foster care adoptions, well go HERE and take a glance.
and don't try and be all perfect and stuff. :)

16 comments:

DysFUNctional Mom said...

I love this post.

WackyMummy said...

Interesting campaign. Truthful, too. =)

Meaghan said...

awesome post d! i loved this! and even though you don't decide biological kids over a bottle of wine...sometimes it leads to one! bwahahahaha!

Angelia Sims said...

This awesome! Congratulations! Beautiful family and very helpful info. I can't have any more children unless I choose in-vitro, which is a lot of money and no guarantees. I really would love to adopt if my boyfriend and I marry, it's a dream of mine. I love this post about it!

SITSta comment love.

Elizabeth said...

Well I think you are fabulous and those kiddos are so blessed to have you and Ryan.

Michelle said...

Great post and I have to say that I love your new family photo!

Mel Fraase said...

That's a great campaign! People forget its not all babies needing families! You guys rock!

Jen said...

Loved this post. So true, you don't have to be perfect.

Karen said...

I've always wanted to be a mom and I just assumed I would adopt at least one someday. I do think it takes a bit of selflessness to agree to become the parent of a child you're not biologically obligated to raise, but I totally get what you're saying. When you really want to be a parent, it doesn't matter where the kid comes from.

Thanks so much for visiting on my SITS day!

kelly in TX said...

Perfect!!! Thanks!

Kelly
http://www.ourordinaryday.wordpress.com

blueviolet said...

You said that so perfectly! :)

He & Me + 3 said...

What a great post about adoption...i have so many friends that are adopting and that want to adopt. Thanks for sharing this.

Kelly in Texas said...

Hi. I wanted to make sure it is okay to link back to this post in a few days. Let me know!

Kelly
http://www.ourordinaryday.wordpress.com

mommytoalot said...

Great post!!
I too thought private adoption was expensive..and you're so right when you say, "we spend 40,000 on a care without blinking an eye"

Over-Caffeinated X 4 said...

Okay, you know what, you've inspired me... I'm going on a November awareness blitz!

Jenni Jiggety said...

I think you are awesome! :-D I would love to adopt but my husband thinks two kids is quite enough. :(