Thursday, March 26, 2009

u asked..i answer, part {how do you say three in french?}

my bud, michelle at big blueberry eyes, asked...if money were no object what is your dream vacation? where would you and what would you do?

well, i would always go where there was a beach, few people, good food and lots of sunshine. give me the beach and a cute little sippy sip of diet coke, iwth a funky umbrella in it, of course...and i'm set! hawaii would be great...but i'm up for any good beach. got any suggestions?


a form of therapy asked, what made you decide to adopt/foster children?
i grew up in an adoptive fam...after my little bro, matthew, died in 1974, i was 5 and an only child for a year. seems i was too spoiled and getting too much attention {a diamond ring and motorcycle in 1 year, come on..it was all love}. whatever!
anyway, mom and dad felt the call to adopt...long story short. after looking at piles of books at the welfare agency, mom fell madly in love with jeremy's chubby face and eyes...and the rest is history. jeremy was 26 months old...and we were an adoptive family.
{odd enough, in the end, jeremy was short and stocky just like the rest of us...hmmmm...maybe it was the water...or donuts}
when ryan and i met, we had always discussed adoption...there are so many children who need homes. god perfectly orchestrated each of our two adoptions...amazing stories! {another post}
brooke was adopted at birth...ryan and i took brit through her pregnancy {she was a scared 13 year old girl} and we birthed with her. brit became one of us...she's just another one of our kids.
{this is precious brit and me...and brooke in utero}jada actually came to us initially as an adoption and when birth dad got a bit scared, her bio parents asked us to foster her until she was available for adoption through foster care. and 3 1/2 years later, lots of ups and downs, 11 other foster kids {HERE}, we adopted jada.james 1:27 says, "Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father means caring for orphans and widows in their distress and refusing to let the world corrupt you."


and from tutu's bliss, so I know you're fabulous at blogging, photography, crafting, man wrangling and mothering so fess up...what are you "not so good" at?

first, i am really bad at lots of things. i hate exercise...and i love to eat. don't even try and tell me i can't do something...i will do it just to spite you. and i have a teeny weeny problem with patience. i don't answer my cell if i'm doing anything at all...and my friends hate it! i'm totally a type a...need to plan and plan and make a list and plan. i should be more fervent in my devotional time. i can not make a fried egg without getting it to stick all over the pan...no matter what. and i'm terrible at details when it comes to things i don't care that much about...weird, but true.
oh, and i can talk too much. *squeal*

from columbia lily at the dark side of the chalkboard...what is the most important thing someone who is considering adoption should know?

adoption is not an alternative, it's a lifelong decision, just like pregnancy. in adoption, there are many more mountains and valleys than pregnancy. go HERE and HERE for some adoption tidbits. and HERE for linky's for adoption questions and sources. and always, always ask as many questions as you wish.
and when society views your situation as "different", you will always be different...and you must embrace it! weird is the new normal around here folks!!!

oh and please, please asksome more questions.

23 comments:

CC said...

I puffy heart adoption. Thank you for answering questions and being honest.

In addition to our two miracles through adoption, I'd like to consider foster care one day. Any advice on that?

Briony said...

i love this post....you are so open i love it!

PJ said...

This was a favorite post for me. Very informative links were provided and we got to learn a bit more about you. I absolutely adore "Adoption is the new Pregnant"!

Rebekah said...

God will truly reward you in heaven for your wonderful sacrifice.

blueviolet said...

I really enjoyed hearing about the whole adoption part! :)

Rebecca Jo said...

That shirt is great!!!

He And Me + 3 said...

That was so fun getting to know you better. Love the picture of Hubs and Jada...so cute.

lmt1073 said...

D-
Thanks for sharing that. I'm feeling all the emotional ups and downs right now and when I feel like giving up at times, I read your blog and it helps. I cry and release the emotions and am able to continue on. It's not an easy journey, but one I'm not going to give up on or will ever regret!

Laura @ A Form of Therapy

p.s. Loved the "baby" pic of brooke and the baby pic of jada

Elizabeth said...

Great post...love your openness. I'm like you with the type a needing to plan, but also a slacker with details for things I don't care too much about.

Mandy said...

I do the same thing w/ my cell phone and get a lot of jeers for this. I figure if it is important they will leave a voicemail and I will return their call when I can, fair enough. I also tell most people just email, I will get back with you quicker!!! :-)

Okay, here's my question, and it is very important, deep and will take lots of thinking...:-)

What is your oldest piece of clothing/accessory? Why do you love it? What do you think all women/mom's should have in their wardrobe?

Mummy Butterfly said...

Trois (three in french lol )
just want to let you know that your blog is my FAVORITE one !!

Sonia (the french chick from Canada lol)

Meaghan said...

i love these q and a sessions!!! more more more! oh, and post pics of the new toy room paint already!!!

Halftime Lessons said...

Love the post, the concept, andf the shirt!

Great things, ma'am.

;-)

Always a fan,

Jay

Abby said...

You have such a beautiful family and I agree with you that God had a plan in putting it together for you. I too have a hodge podge of a family that I like to describe as a jigsaw puzzle. They may seem like crazy pieces but they fit together beautifully to make a family!

-side note a bit of anger to think a 13 yr old girl, how scary so glad she had wonderful support in you!

Mel Fraase said...

Good questions! Thanks for sharing!

Jen said...

love getting to know you better. the more I know, the more I love.

amy said...

i have to say i feel like we may be long lost sisters or something. reading about what you're not good at made me laugh with each and every thing. even down to the fried egg thing--we are such twinkies!! thanks so much for your honest and open dialogues. i enjoy them so.very.much.
lots of hugs to you and your sweet fam.
amy
p.s. trois! (three en francais)

Bee and Rose said...

You are a rockstar, girly! I love ya even more! I love this post!

Bird, Frizzy and Yaya said...

What is your most memorable heartwrenching adoption moment? I loved reading your answers and by the way I think you might be my mental twin.

DysFUNctional Mom said...

Great questions & answers! I think y'all are awesome.

Megan said...

Thanks for sharing your world with us. I enjoy hearing more and more about you! =)

Yaya said...

Catching up on your posts! I want that shirt! ;)

Michelle said...

I enjoy reading your answers and getting to know more about you and your family! Thank you for sharing yourself!