i have 4 daughters...they are all my children. i don't have any of "my own". all of my kiddos are mine. i do have 2 children i birthed and 2 children that are adopted.
parents do not 'give up' their children. this one gets to me. no
parent ever just gives up a child. either a parent chooses adoption as a placement or their parental rights were terminated and the child is available for adoption.
if a child is adopted from another country, the child is not foreign, but the child is adopted from abroad.
my kids have ears...they understand what people say, so if you have questions about why we all look different, tell me that you are interested in adoption and would like to talk about it. then, we can do that without having the kiddos feel awkward.
adoption is different...it's not the norm. please don't try to make an adopted child feel special for the choice their birthparent made for them. it's hard when kids are different.
my kiddos birthparents are involved in their lives. they are good peeps. but you really don't need to know that unless you are sincerely asking about adoption.
i don't ask you how you got pregnant with your kids or how many cigs you smoke or if you ever did drugs in your life, so please don't assume OR ASK if my children's birthparents were addicts. first, it's none of your business. second, you really don't need to know. third, it's just rude. don't ask.
birthmom's rock the planet. if you've ever carried a child, you know how much love it would take to hand that child to another family and know that it's the best for the child. it's absolutely not self serving...not a cop out...not anything but a very, very difficult decision and choice.
so, you wanna know what love looks like? this is it. this is b and her birthmom, brit. brit is amazing!!! we love her soo much. she's def part of the fam and one of my kiddos now. we see her about every 4-6 weeks now and talk frequently on the phone. she's as much of our lives as b is.
and knowing that God really does have a sense of humor, that's not me in the pic, it's brit. yep...crazy nuts how much we look alike. this is b's bowling party for her #5!