Any of you all that know us know that we are an adoptive family...and for those that don't just look at our pic. It will be obvious. We are different sizes and shapes and colors. That's why we call ourselves the "motley crew". I know, pretty funny.
Here's the deal...a few things that I don't need strangers to say to me, or tell me:
1. I know that I'm white and my #3 daughter is brown. I live with her. Your revelation is not mine.
2. Yes...some of my kids don't look like me.
3. My kids have ears and are old enough to understand the stupid things you say. So don't say "where's she from?" I might have to kill you if you do. Consider yourself warned.
4. Just because an AA kid is adopted, doesn't mean they are from Africa. Look around...here in the US we have AA people too.
5. Don't ask me which of my kids are my REAL ones. Clue...we are all real and so are you...REAL DUMB. (sorry...it hurts my feelings)
6. Please don't ask us or the kids if they see their real parents. I am my kids Mom. My kids will look at you like you are stupid because, well, I am standing right there. (birth mom is the correct term). If their birth mom was "REAL" that would make me "FAKE".
7. I don't ask you where you had sex or what process you did to get pregnant with your kids, so please don't ask specifics about mine. If you want to know more about adoption, ask specifics about adoption, not about why they were adopted or placed for adoption. That way, I can sit down and talk without my kids and address them.
8. Being an adoptive Mom does not make me a hero. I'm a Mom who wanted kids and chose adoption. I appreciate (I'm very serious here) that you think that, but it makes my biological kids feel not as important.
Okay...so that's a few things. On another note, being an adoptive Mom has opened so many doors for me to talk with people I would have never met. I love to educate people about adoption, so please don't misunderstand that, but I sometimes feel like a walking billboard.
I love my kids. All my kids. And, I want you to ask questions about adoption. Just please, don't ask me a question that you wouldn't want me to ask you or your child. So, on that note, there are a few great links for etiquette.
Adoption is so awesome...I can't say that enough. It's the best gift that you will ever receive from God. It is a true picture of God's love and grace. If you are considering adoption, you can take a look for information at adoption sites, some private adoption places, and as always, ask me questions. Just not in front of my kids. (end my rant here)
Adoption is totally God's idea, so remember the words of Paul in Ephesians 1:4-6:
"5God was kind and decided that Christ would choose us to be God's own adopted children. 6God was very kind to us because of the Son he dearly loves, and so we should praise God."