debi from who says 8 is enough asks, "what surprised you most after adopting a child of a different race?"
well, interesting question. i really thought i had it relatively figured out. honestly, i worried about the black community not understanding and i had no idea that the white community was going to be the problem. i have found more support and love and dignity in the black community in our interracial fam...the white community has tended to be more questioning and digging, if you will...the "why did she end up in foster care?" "did her birthmom do drugs"...all questions i don't get so much with brooke, who is adopted as well, but white.
after that serious answer, the next biggest thing...white people trying to give me advice on not washing her hair every day. if i had a dollar for every time a person who has no idea how to do aa hair told me to not wash her hair every day, i would rival donald trump!
i usually just smile and say, "yes, her hair is much different than yours" and try and run away so there's not extra advice.
ryan and i honestly thought through so many things, talked with tons of friends and other interracial fams...but until you live live with a multi-cultural, multi-racial family, you can't prepare for it completely. i wouldn't change a single thing...i love my brown girlie pie in the midst of our vanilla fam. she makes us so much prettier...and more aware of the things that aa's go thru that i had no idea...
so, my advice to anyone...listen first, then THINK, then ask questions. if you wouldn't want your children to have it asked about them, don't ask it about another person's child in front of them. my kids have ears...and they hear everything you say. :)