tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467678213986300156.post7514133294059759245..comments2023-11-02T05:06:28.815-04:00Comments on A Thorn Among Roses: etiquette lessonmommaof4wife2rhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10374972882099227095noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467678213986300156.post-65787361796349674712009-03-10T09:45:00.000-04:002009-03-10T09:45:00.000-04:00Just going to say AMEN ... I have two daughters th...Just going to say AMEN ... I have two daughters that were born in China and when people ask in front of them are THEY REAL sisters, I want to scream and go no they are fabricatied ... Of course they are real sisters and I am their real mother and those are their real brothers and you are a REAL #%% ! But God might not like that, so I politely say yes and keep on walking before they ask another stupid question !!! <BR/><BR/>Great tribute to BM ... I have had the privledge to foster several babies and when I did get to meet the BM I just hugged her neck and thought what a loving person and amazingly strong woman !!!Gwen Oatsvall https://www.blogger.com/profile/16798625543512689427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467678213986300156.post-47357784845152696932009-02-13T11:29:00.000-05:002009-02-13T11:29:00.000-05:00I came over to your site from another blog I have ...I came over to your site from another blog I have been following & want to tell you I love your adoption language entry!! We are in the process of adopting from Korea & hope to pick our little guy up in August or September. This is our first child & have not had any experience yet with how rude people can be... but have heard many stories. I loved it!! Well said!Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03105630011143900240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467678213986300156.post-43033573838077078852008-12-22T02:03:00.000-05:002008-12-22T02:03:00.000-05:00I wanted to e-mail you but can't find a link for i...I wanted to e-mail you but can't find a link for it... I may just be missing it though.<BR/><BR/>Anyway. I wanted to let you know that I loved this. My mom put her son up for adoption in the 70's and there's been a whole path of things in my life attached to it. I'm 13 years his junior.<BR/><BR/>My SIL also recently adopted a little girl. I'm going to pass this post along to her - it'll definitely make her smile.<BR/><BR/>I do have a couple of questions for you though - honest, hopefully not rude - about open adoption. If your willing to answer, my e-mail is youngmomma.blog@gmail.comYoung Mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02130063866026301539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467678213986300156.post-14547565638579660862008-12-03T18:53:00.000-05:002008-12-03T18:53:00.000-05:00wow, this is very, very interesting. it's about ti...wow, this is very, very interesting. it's about time somebody just laid it all out there for people. thank you! <BR/><BR/>i have not adopted any kids, BUT, i am adopted. things have really changed in 40 years. thank goodness.<BR/><BR/>good for you. beautiful girls you have.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07896271627723253157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467678213986300156.post-88499546255524077522008-11-24T21:29:00.000-05:002008-11-24T21:29:00.000-05:00Very informative! And "the kiss" picture make me ...Very informative! And "the kiss" picture make me get all misty eyed. :o/<BR/><BR/>LORICntryMommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04416351858133080826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467678213986300156.post-89733231462837619502008-11-09T15:53:00.000-05:002008-11-09T15:53:00.000-05:00Thanks for spreading awareness! I admit to having ...Thanks for spreading awareness! I admit to having said the phrase "gave up for adoption." I didn't think it sounded quite "right" to say it, but honestly didn't know what was the right/better thing to say - and that's all you hear all the time is "gave up" ... so thank you for showing me the better way to refer to a child being adopted!<BR/><BR/>How nice that you have such a special, open, relationship with her birth mom too...she's one lucky little girl!Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02441176684416139172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467678213986300156.post-6566235054077919172008-11-08T10:22:00.000-05:002008-11-08T10:22:00.000-05:00popped over from SITS--love the blog. Good for yo...popped over from SITS--love the blog. Good for you. Thanks for sharing your story.merc3069https://www.blogger.com/profile/06366582950263088848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467678213986300156.post-41753043121635167632008-11-08T10:18:00.000-05:002008-11-08T10:18:00.000-05:00Awesome post and thanks for sharing! Just visiting...Awesome post and thanks for sharing! Just visiting from SITS. You have a beautiful family!AndreaLeighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15947251123686458404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467678213986300156.post-15155541999542349162008-11-07T17:26:00.000-05:002008-11-07T17:26:00.000-05:00Thanks for getting the word out! We've been consi...Thanks for getting the word out! We've been considering adoption here, but NOW doesn't seem to be the right time for us. It's nice to see your perspective on things.Mozi Esmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16078786257885681829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467678213986300156.post-2688464490774817622008-11-07T04:56:00.000-05:002008-11-07T04:56:00.000-05:00Thanks for posting this. Some of them, I thought ...Thanks for posting this. Some of them, I thought 'seriously, someone said this to you?!' but some of them, I could've said myself, not knowing they were offensive.Putting the FUN in DysFUNctionalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02996772324484385959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467678213986300156.post-78279049757989325992008-11-06T23:40:00.000-05:002008-11-06T23:40:00.000-05:00This was a FABULOUS post! It's crazy what some peo...This was a FABULOUS post! It's crazy what some people come up with. Sometimes I am just shocked in general at how rude some people can be. We get crazy comments just because we have three little ones...you would really laugh at some of the things people say. Maybe I'll post about it. Ha! Ha! Thanks again for the great read and sharing about your beautiful family.Kaceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18292412205639042989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467678213986300156.post-77955310362862560742008-11-06T22:42:00.000-05:002008-11-06T22:42:00.000-05:00Fantastic post. You know I agree with you, girl. T...Fantastic post. You know I agree with you, girl. The stories we could share......My oldest came home a month ago and told me I wasn't her "real" mom. She was so crushed. We are still workin' through it. <BR/><BR/>Reading Wep's comment makes me think of how my kids talk about the day they were adopted. The refer to it as the day we got married. I love that.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15740522091681274109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467678213986300156.post-6787205302933434482008-11-06T20:22:00.000-05:002008-11-06T20:22:00.000-05:00Totally true. Great post. As a aunt to children ...Totally true. Great post. As a aunt to children who were adopted, the term adopted applies to that DAY. Then the kids are just yours. <BR/><BR/>The boys did refer to the day I married my husband as the day we "adopted" Uncle Jason.Wephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00778012535731461256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467678213986300156.post-15208047813315209012008-11-06T19:20:00.000-05:002008-11-06T19:20:00.000-05:00Such a beautiful post and so good to hear! I'm su...Such a beautiful post and so good to hear! I'm sure you really do hear all sorts of things, and I apologize on behalf of all the people that talk before thinking. I think it's amazing what you do (and hopefully I don't offend you here), but it seems that you just have such a big heart! I've never really thought about adoption before... now, after reading your blog... I have a little. I guess I'm just trying to say that I appreciate your family life and it's so beautiful to see!Tabitha Bluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01019907765384844007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467678213986300156.post-42773550394685726932008-11-06T17:14:00.000-05:002008-11-06T17:14:00.000-05:00Girl you need to print some of these rules out so ...Girl you need to print some of these rules out so those of us who have uniquely beautiful adoptive families can hand them out to some of the idiots oops sorry uninformed people that makes these comments! <BR/><BR/>The worst I ever got was ....so you mean to say her real mom didn't even want her?<BR/><BR/>Let me tell you it took all the energy I had to not slap her!Abbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02963721437864483580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467678213986300156.post-33248000450167145022008-11-06T15:54:00.000-05:002008-11-06T15:54:00.000-05:00Great post - Adoption is different and can be diff...Great post - Adoption is different and can be difficult, understanding is the key.<BR/><BR/>You totally Rock National Adoption Awareness Month!!<BR/>~KGypsiAdventurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114056397143074653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467678213986300156.post-28043328210451416772008-11-06T13:27:00.000-05:002008-11-06T13:27:00.000-05:00that was a great post, I loved what you said about...that was a great post, I loved what you said about birth mom's. it is so true, they are truly self-less people to do such a thing like that.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10399156539354549499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467678213986300156.post-68918875936732820592008-11-06T12:51:00.000-05:002008-11-06T12:51:00.000-05:00That WAS great!! It amazes me what people will com...That WAS great!! It amazes me what people will come out with, really it does...Adoptive parents are just amazing and those girls or women who chose adoption DID make a choice that had to be difficult...<BR/><BR/>ANYWAY....I'm going to have to POST PICTURES of just how SERIOUS my paper addiction is...It's comical really...my feeling is that it's PAPER, no harm to anyone...except a few trees..but I can always plant more, right?? <BR/><BR/>Yes, so it's great to meet a fellow paper addict! We MUST unite!! HA! :)<BR/><BR/>I just had to come over and say hello...<BR/>peace....<BR/>lorilorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17533409277703652869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467678213986300156.post-33920922841372725052008-11-06T10:49:00.000-05:002008-11-06T10:49:00.000-05:00ok.one more comment.it seems as though the ones wh...ok.<BR/><BR/>one more comment.<BR/><BR/>it seems as though the ones who feel entitled to an explanation into YOUR life are suffering from stupidity.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467678213986300156.post-46385708741776352662008-11-06T10:48:00.000-05:002008-11-06T10:48:00.000-05:00there are so many things that you just CAN'T IMAGI...there are so many things that you just CAN'T IMAGINE until it happens to you.<BR/><BR/>wow.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467678213986300156.post-39357812244654908892008-11-06T10:29:00.000-05:002008-11-06T10:29:00.000-05:00great post!!great post!!auntiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15977335384543321307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467678213986300156.post-14495214424864993432008-11-06T09:26:00.000-05:002008-11-06T09:26:00.000-05:00Oh amen to this post! As both a mom through adopt...Oh amen to this post! As both a mom through adoption and an adoptee myself, I especially agree with these two:<BR/><BR/>"adoption is different...it's not the norm. please don't try to make an adopted child feel special for the choice their birthparent made for them. it's hard when kids are different."<BR/><BR/>"i don't ask you how you got pregnant with your kids or how many cigs you smoke or if you ever did drugs in your life, so please don't assume OR ASK if my children's birthparents were addicts. first, it's none of your business. second, you really don't need to know. third, it's just rude. don't ask."<BR/><BR/>Thanks for writing this post! You rock!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04027001537835285847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467678213986300156.post-14377002983761983292008-11-06T08:51:00.000-05:002008-11-06T08:51:00.000-05:00it's interesting to see/hear how people think your...it's interesting to see/hear how people think your life is an open book and they can say/ask anything they want without thinking of the consequencesLorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12688642209556861948noreply@blogger.com